One thing that has TOTALLY gotten on my last damn nerves is people (whom I haven't talked to since high school mind you) who give me advice on parenting and pregnancy like I'm stupid as hell and don't know what the hell I'm doing! I appreciate advice, I really do...but don't treat me like I don't know what I'm doing!
Comments like these are what get on my damn nerves!:
- "you shouldn't be doing that"
- "oh, that's really bad for the baby"
- "wow, you shouldn't be experiencing that. Maybe you have ___ instead."
Can I please effin scream?!?! When I post something on Facebook, I'm not stupid! I know what I should and should not be doing! I have my OB's nurse on speed dial for any questions and concerns I have. They pretty much know me by name by now THAT'S how many times I have called them. I have asked her about taking baths and what soaps I should and should not use. I ask her if I'm allowed to eat or drink certain things (like egg nog, lunch meat, flavored waters, vinegar, how much salt and sugar I should have, etc.). I have asked her if it is normal for my breasts to be some what leaking already when I'm only 14 weeks. I have asked her if sex is okay, how often we should do it, what position to do it in, and whether night or morning has an effect on anything. I have asked about my seizures and if my convulsions hurt the baby at all. I have asked so many things. She has told me that as long as my bath water doesn't exceed 100 degrees, the baby is fine. She has told me that the best soaps and bubble bath stuff to use is the kids' soaps because those don't cause irritation, UTIs, none of that because it has special ingredients in it too fight those kinds of things FOR KIDS other the the stuff we adults use. She has informed me that if the bath water is too hot in a bath, the baby gets hot and is unable to sweat like we can. She has told me what food and drinks are good to eat and drink and which ones are not. She has told me that it is normal for your breasts to leak; some women start as early as 12 weeks, some 25 weeks, some not until the baby is born, and some not even then. She said sex is ok and to have sex just like you used to before you got pregnant and when you get passed your due date that the OB will tell you to have sex multiple times to speed up the labor process. She has helped me with my seizures and has told me that as long as I don't fall, my baby is perfectly fine and that my convulsions do not hurt the baby. So see, I know what I'm talking about when I post statuses like, "ahhh I'm enjoying a bubble bath" or "omg this egg nog is delicious!" I make sure I ask my OB about ANYTHING before I do it, eat it, or drink it! So everyone can get off my ass and shut their mouths! Unless I actually ask a question about something for advice to be given, shut your mouth and stop thinking I'm a dumb ass who doesn't know what she's doing!
It's one thing to give advice, but it's another when people are flat out telling me that I shouldn't be doing things when I have asked my OB. And I know that those people don't know that I have asked my OB these things, but why would I post something on Facebook where I KNOW someone's gonna tell me that it's harmful for my child if I didn't ask before hand?!?! I mean seriously, come on!
And one more thing, I absolutely cannot STAND when I post something like, "OMG I am so sick today! This kid didn't agree with what I ate," someone just HAS to say, " well be grateful that you actually get to experience that because not a lot of people can!" Ok 1. I know first hand how hard it is for someone to tell you that you might not be able to have kids one day because I have been told that. 2. I have someone in my family that cannot have kids so not only do I know what it's like to be told that, I have seen the hurt on that person's face when everyone else is having kids but that person cannot conceive. So don't tell me that I should be grateful that I am going through all these changes when I am 100% grateful that I have the ability to experience this because I know a lot of people who never will be able to. It still sucks to puke your guts out and to have pinched nerves in your back. Pregnancy is a gift not everyone can enjoy going through, but it's also a hard experience to go through, not only physically but mentally and emotionally as well.
Ok, now that I have gotten THAT off of my chest, I feel better haha!
People are gonna be stupid, I know this. And I know that I choose how I react to peoples's stupidity, but when you have raging hormones and you cry because you're out of pickles, people are gonna piss you off and there's no time to think about your reaction when your hormones do it for you.
So that's my story and I'm sticking to it. Hopefully I'll have a better rest of the weeks because this week sucks! I am almost 14 weeks and I guess it really is true that 13 is an unlucky number because being 13 weeks pregnant SUCKS so far! lol
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